As the year comes to a close, I’ve been thinking a lot about how my resolutions differ from year to year. I have several scraps of paper floating around my house with notes and scribbles trying to discern why. I’ve finally come to realize that the years I’ve spent as a Military Spouse, seem to [...]

When my husband is deployed, my biggest personal challenge is asking for help. Especially as a stay at home Mom. Not because of pride – I realize that I cannot possibly do it all – but out of survival. You see, while Seth is away, I usually find myself in a perpetual state of semi-denial. [...]

Lately I feel like I’m living life in slow motion. My husband has all of his bags packed. I’ve sewn countless patches on pieces of gear. He has rotated the tires and changed the oil in the van. Several Power of Attorneys and Wills have been updated. There are 7 gallons of laundry detergent cached [...]

Over the weekend, we sat down as a family with an art project to talk about deployment. Chatting over stickers, markers, and glue can be a great way to talk about big issues in an indirect way. It allows us as parents to steer the conversation, while they are primarily focused on the activity Saying [...]

When Seth comes home from work, I try to give him time to decompress. Living on post means his commute is usually less than 10 minutes – which means sometimes he still needs some time to unwind.  So the understanding we’ve come to over the course of our marriage is that when he comes home [...]

Have you ever felt like you were stuck on the tracks in front of a proverbial steaming locomotive? Like the last few weeks before your wedding day… or the last few weeks of pregnancy… or the last weeks before a deployment… you know a big change is about to happen – you know you are [...]

Every Sunday evening, I give my husband his weekly haircut.  It is also a time when our children are in bed and we can just talk over the quiet hum of the hair clippers.  We are preparing for my husbands 4th deployment – this time to Afghanistan.  (The Army deploys their service members for 12 [...]

While my Mom and Sister were here, Seth had to leave again for a few weeks of training. Saying goodbye isn’t easy. Coping with goodbye isn’t easy either. But – explaining myself to my family… well… that was really hard. Let me explain. The week before Seth goes somewhere, I start to slack on the [...]

Seth has been packing in preparation for some training… Which means a few more weeks of separation for our family is coming… This one is only for a few weeks, so we’ll be just fine. But honestly? I find myself already preparing to ride the 12 month deployment roller coaster. Have you ever been on [...]

Life with small children means laundry is never ending… someone’s diaper explodes… someone has a potty training accident… someone discovers an unattended piece of chocolate on the counter… During this blur of daily chores and responsibilities… it’s easy to feel overwhelmed… making you feel like SAHM really means Stuck at home mom… Throw in the [...]